Just Thinking…..
Imagine a group of high school kids grabbing some pizza and having that wonderful high school conversation about the future. Imagine that it went like this:
“I plan to go to college and graduate with huge debt. I probably won’t work during college because, hey…. I can always get another loan.”
“My plans are to have some kids but not get married.”
“Well, I plan to get married and have some kids, but I want to be divorced while they are still young.”
“I’m hoping to be living with my folks.”
“My goal is to father some kids, but stay out of their lives.”
“I want to spend several years behind bars.”
“Overall, I hope to be unemployed most of my life….. have a job here and there….. nothing steady”
“I just want to be fired from my job.”
“More than likely, I’ll be homeless and searching for the best shelter.”
“I’d like to devote my life to drugs, live in a haze, get in trouble.”
“Just wanting to drop out of school….”
“I want to die young…. maybe a car wreck or suicide or something….”
“I’d really like to be a homewrecker…. break up someone’s marriage.”
“I’m trying to be an alcoholic.”
“My plan is to burn out on the job.”
“I’m trying to prepare myself now to have a bad reputation, to be known as a liar and a cheat.”
“I want to smoke so heavily that I get cancer.”
“I don’t want to have any friends.”
“If I do nothing else, I just want my family to lose respect for me.”
“I just want to always be giving up.”
Can you imagine? If a group of teens did gather to talk like this, I would just hope that it was all in jest. After all, who plans to deliberately be a failure?
And yet…….. it happens. The divorce, the fatherless home, the homeless father, the person who can’t keep a job, the one who is in debt up to the eyeballs, the one who loses freedom, loses health, loses family, loses wealth,……. It wasn’t planned, but that’s what happened.
How? How did it go in the wrong direction? How did the energy and optimism of youth become shattered dreams? How did one bad decision, one thoughtless action, one reckless night become something that haunts the rest of life?
To the youth…… Gather for pizza. Make plans. Dream big. Get an action plan. Don’t let failure stop you. Keep on climbing.
Langston Hughes wrote a most pointed poem about this. Consider his words:
Mother to Son
Father, My heart hurts for those who lose their way so quickly and never can quite find the way back. Help me know the best way to reach out.
To God be the glory,’
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